Day Two - Align your Beliefs - Part 1

Day Two - Align your Beliefs

I have had a long term belief that I have adopted and is responsible for a lot of the vision I currently have for my future, and I must tell you, I am very excited about it. The belief I adopted was this:- Do not wish to be normal ... dare to be extraordinary.

I truly believe that all stutterers have a hidden gift just waiting to be unleashed. You know what it is like to not have the benefits of verbal communication, where the majority of people have always had it and think nothing of it, and in doing so only ever use it to a fraction of its true potential. A person who stutters is unlikely to ever fall into that trap. If there was a magic pill and suddenly a persons stutter was gone forever, and they suddenly never had to think or worry about speaking again, I have a feeling they would literally be shouting from the roof tops. They would never take that new ability for granted and would spend the rest of their lives using it to its fullest potential.

I also have the unshakable belief that fluency is not only possible, but a lot easier than you may think. I believe a person can be free of their infliction in a matter of days at worst, possibly just a few moments. I believe that to obtain everlasting fluency, a person does not require a magic pill. They just require a realisation. A change in the meaning they attach to themselves and the world they live in, and that does happen in a moment and happens to people all around the world each and every day.

I, in a small way, have experienced this myself a few years ago. I will tell you a story, but please realise that I tell it, not to say it is the answer, or that I wish this upon anyone else, but so you understand that change can happen in an instant. A persons perspective and reality is both subjective and fluid in nature. Almost 10 years ago my wife decided we should separate. This was a devastating blow to me and appeared completely out of the blue. As you can imagine, I was in absolute shock. I had in no way seen it coming, and within 24 hours I moved out of our family home. It was one of the hardest times of my life. Apart from my job, I had no familiar place to go, all my visions of the future were gone, and I felt completely lost. Within a few days I had somehow managed to assemble some sort of new daily routine but I was still very lost inside. About two weeks later, my friend and boss said to me, have you noticed that you do not stutter anymore? At first I couldn't believe it, but then I realised it was true. I had not stuttered since the separation. I had lost every ounce of fear I had in my body. In my mind, the worst had already happened and I had no fear for the future, no fear of talking to people because humiliation was pale in comparison to what had actually happened. I even went parachuting to try and revive a sense of fear but even that didn't work. I lost the fear, and in doing so, lost the stutter, and it happened in a moment.

To finish the story, as time went by, my old patterns returned and so did my stutter. My wife and I got back together 8 months later after we both gained a lot of personal growth. In hide sight, it turned out to be the best thing that could have happened. I learnt a great deal about myself and was the first time I truly met myself. I had always spent my time and energy doing things to please others, and it wasn't till the was no 'others' that I really thought about what it was that I wanted, what I was about.

So, that's my discussion for today. I hope you got something useful out of today. I know I did. I look forward to catching up again soon.

Warrick Sullivan
http://www.fluencyquest.com